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Helena Solith's avatar

This really resonated, Madhumitha. I lived with my parents for most of my twenties too, and that kind of loneliness can really hurt. Feeling lonely amongst your closest people. I’ve never lived alone, and sometimes I wonder what that kind of solitude would feel like.

What you wrote about generational trauma and emotional misalignment really spoke to me. I’ve felt that too... The quiet ache of realizing your parents are still carrying their own childhood wounds, and often spilling them onto you without even realizing it. Hurt people, hurt people. That sentence holds multitudes.

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Mansi Nikam's avatar

As someone who struggles with loneliness since the age of 15-16, this piece spoke to me on levels I can't exactly explain..but thank you 🥹

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Madhumitha Priyadarshini's avatar

I’m sorry about that ! I’m sure better times are ahead and you can heal from loneliness to actually be able to appreciate your own company someday 🌸 That happened with me and it was magical , the journey was a struggle but at the end it all seems worth it . Hugs to you , friend 🫂

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Mansi Nikam's avatar

Yes! I am currently going through something similar? I guess...

Thank you again! Can't wait to read more of your work 🫂

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Allyson Skye's avatar

Wow, thank you! It definitely isn't easy to initiate those tough conversations. The ones that can truly be healing. I learned that when it's you, the one it's affecting. When it's you who realizes there is something that needs to be repaired... it is in a lot of ways your responsibility to initiate that conversation. Otherwise, it will likely never happen.

I did this a few years ago and had a tough conversation with a parent, and it brought us a lot closer and there is more understanding between us now.

Thank you, again. A beautiful reminder.

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Allen Kwon's avatar

Green goddess dressing might be the most unexpectedly perfect metaphor for generational trauma. Sour, bitter, complex—but with the right care, maybe even nourishing. Beautiful work.

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Glory Aminu's avatar

This was an interesting read💗

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Madhumitha Priyadarshini's avatar

Thank you so much Glory 🌸✨

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Montserrat's avatar

Lovely writing!!! So interesting to read:)

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Madhumitha Priyadarshini's avatar

Thank you so much Mont🌸✨

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Georgie James's avatar

Really profound, you’ve tapped into something so prevalent but rarely voiced today. It’s true our generation do carry emotional baggage and it can feel like discussions around mental health is all we have left anymore.

I really relate to the trauma adults carry and inflict. Growing up around a narcissist who spewed her trauma and jealousy on others, really gave me insight into her unhealed inner child. It’s no excuse for such behaviour, but I’ve learned to cultivate grace after years of therapy.❤️

Thank you for a great read Madhumi.🥰

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Madhumitha Priyadarshini's avatar

Thank you so much Georgie 🌸 The trauma they carry is the reason , they inflict the same trauma onto others. Although I’m unsure if it’s intentional or otherwise . Etched into their memory or something they developed along the way. I’m so sorry you had to face a narcissist while growing up. Big hugs to your younger self 🫂. I’m so glad you are at a better place now ❤️

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Servontay moore's avatar

Thanks for being so transparent good read

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Madhumitha Priyadarshini's avatar

Thank you Servontay🌸 I’m glad you liked it !

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Astrid Sadaya's avatar

I remember that title from my life coach years ago and i truly felt it. I agree the generation is carrying unnecessary weight and needs proper guidance 💯

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Madhumitha Priyadarshini's avatar

Guidance & support is all that we need Astrid. A kind soul to talk to , someone who could respect us for who we are instead of being judgemental or discouraging.🌻

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Lisha Shi's avatar

I was drawn in by the title, especially since I’ve been reading a lot about generational issues lately. After reading your piece, I just wanted to say—your writing feels so natural and sincere. I totally get the confusion you’re sitting with. It’s one thing to understand the bigger picture and why people act the way they do, but it’s another thing entirely to not be bothered by it, or to find peace with it.

The first part is easier to learn—it’s the second that’s so much harder. I feel you.

And honestly, with all the emphasis on mental health these days, it somehow doesn’t make it easier. Sometimes I wonder if younger generations are carrying the burden of doing all the emotional work. It’s heavy.

I just want to say—I see you, and I hope you find your own way through all of this, whatever that looks like.

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Madhumitha Priyadarshini's avatar

Thank you so much for the kind words Lishi. It’s true, I’d agree to it too. It’s definitely not an easy task to be in a composed and neutral state when in stress & to always act way mature for one’s age . Today’s younger generation is facing it and carrying that emotional load with no other go . I don’t hope to see the end of this , it’s somehow not going to happen but all that I pray for is that I get the strength to always handle situations in the most levelheaded way possible 🌻

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Edward.Marlo.Ruiz's avatar

Very nicely written and engaging. I enjoyed this, especially the images that broke up pacing

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Madhumitha Priyadarshini's avatar

Thank you EMR..🌻 I’m glad you liked it ..

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Anjali Krishnakumar's avatar

I’m probably a 4–5 on that trauma scale! Your thoughts about needing conversations that lead to healing really stay with me. Starting small is still starting! I hope we all find our way, even if it takes time, Madhumitha. 💛

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Madhumitha Priyadarshini's avatar

Having conversations wasn’t a thing at all & it was truly healing when I learnt things do begin to shift when we approach difficult things with an open mindset .🌻

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